Well we have a had a long emotionally draining month, However I learned a few things.....
Life is short, I know this and for the most part we really try to have special moments as a family and tell each other alot that we love each other and to appreciate what we have.
Josh's Nana really started downhill in August she was given 2-4 months and made it 10 weeks, we lost our awesome cat we had for 6 years and a week after returning home Josh's Mom had a head on collision . What I am learning from this tiring month is......
I am allowed to let a ball drop.. This is something I have to allow myself to get over
As you may or may not know I work part time, but I am also president of the PTA on top of my normal mom chores. I have a hard time saying no and I also have a hard time asking for help, the flip side is that I am pretty laid back and try not to stress , I try to be involved in my children and their future. With that said I am human and I don't have to try so hard, I can let the house or dishes go, I am allowed to forget things. Its OK for me to stay in my PJ's sometimes. I am only as good as the care I take for myself allows me to be . My kids are not going to remember the time mom didn't do the dishes or that mom forgot she had a meeting that one day. They are going to remember that in the short time we all lived in one house we spent quality time together, they will remember that trip we took or place we went. They wont know mom forgot she had a meeting that one day
I am thankful and happy everyday for the many blessings we have, we say I love you every time one of us leaves , we don't go to bed mad and we try to do things together on a regular basis. This is what I hope they remember
Saturday, November 17, 2012
Monday, April 30, 2012
The lessons of time apart
As you may or may not know Josh Has been out of state for almost 12 weeks for work.. We have had a one week visit in that time... What I have gained from this is not what I expected
The kids...this is not the hardest part of being alone, 3 kids that I have been a stay at home mom to most of their lives is the same routine regardless of who else is home. Get up, go to school, come home ,eat dinner its groundhog day for the most part.....being the only disciplinarian just stinks
The house...not to bad, kids can clean and do dishes..no one else to cook downside
ME... I have a really good time with my husband we laugh A LOT, we talk A LOT we went 2 years without cable, him being gone the dish was back within 2 weeks. I am bored and lonely. We have never spent more than a few weeks apart in our 14 years, so this was a challenge
What I have learned, that dropping him off and watching him go through security and into the terminal is hard it makes my cry and is a sad day, however waiting for him to come down that escalator into pick up is exciting and makes my heart race in anticipation. No matter if we disagree or argue, at the end of the day he is still the person I want to read the paper and drink coffee with on a Sunday morning.
I have also come to APPRECIATE even more the AMAZING support system that I have here in California. I may not have blood family right here but I have a family of wonderful friends who truly care for us and have helped with anything I have needed. These women are TRUE friends they listen when I need someone to talk to , they help with pick up or drop off or anything else I might need. I am so Thankful for you all and Especially my wifey, who knew I would come to California to find a best friend from BOSTON!!!!
The kids...this is not the hardest part of being alone, 3 kids that I have been a stay at home mom to most of their lives is the same routine regardless of who else is home. Get up, go to school, come home ,eat dinner its groundhog day for the most part.....being the only disciplinarian just stinks
The house...not to bad, kids can clean and do dishes..no one else to cook downside
ME... I have a really good time with my husband we laugh A LOT, we talk A LOT we went 2 years without cable, him being gone the dish was back within 2 weeks. I am bored and lonely. We have never spent more than a few weeks apart in our 14 years, so this was a challenge
What I have learned, that dropping him off and watching him go through security and into the terminal is hard it makes my cry and is a sad day, however waiting for him to come down that escalator into pick up is exciting and makes my heart race in anticipation. No matter if we disagree or argue, at the end of the day he is still the person I want to read the paper and drink coffee with on a Sunday morning.
I have also come to APPRECIATE even more the AMAZING support system that I have here in California. I may not have blood family right here but I have a family of wonderful friends who truly care for us and have helped with anything I have needed. These women are TRUE friends they listen when I need someone to talk to , they help with pick up or drop off or anything else I might need. I am so Thankful for you all and Especially my wifey, who knew I would come to California to find a best friend from BOSTON!!!!
Thursday, April 12, 2012
the great swimsuit debate 2012
Saturday, March 31, 2012
A promise to my children
I have 3 very different and individual children which is how life is supposed to be. All 3 will continue to be amazing people as they grow. I do not promise much in life, but I do promise you this. To love you as you unconditionally. I will support who you are and the choices you make. I may not agree or think its best for you but, I will love and support you. I promise to treat you all equally you are all 3 the most important accomplishment I have ever made. I am more proud of you than you can even imagine. All I ask of you in return is to follow YOUR dreams. Not my dreams for you, but the dreams you have and what makes you happy!!! Find your happiness whatever that may be, find what makes you feel like the best version of you. No matter where that takes you , who you encounter or what it entails FIND YOU HAPPINESS!!!!!! I love you all I cant imagine life with out and all that you have brought me. As you move on and leave your Dad and I , I promise to be your biggest cheerleader I am always here for you thick and thin, right or wrong. I promise to never make you feel anything than loved.
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Grieving
Grieving is probably one of the most personal processes in life. We all have our own way men, women and even our own family members have their own way. So whats proper as an outsider do you give a hug send a flower or just say I am here???
Thursday, March 8, 2012
The drop off pick up chaos
I don't know if every school has this issue or just our little town
I drop my youngest 2 off early to avoid the line that makes its way down the hill as it gets closer to school starting. It tends to run smooth every other car goes in one coming up the hill one coming down pretty simple the hiccup is the parent or Grandparent who puts the car in PARK!!! That is a no no Johnny doesn't need you to get out give hugs and kisses, while we all what for you to move forward and clear out. Park in a spot if this is what YOU need to let them go to school Its March The child is fine.
Our middle school has MAJOR problems, 1st off there is the front to drop off or upper campus with an empty parking lot.. the mornings are smooth except for the mothers in the tanks that think they don't need to sit in the line and cut...Now would you cut in line at the grocery store or Disneyland probably not , but for some reason this person and their cargo are more important than you or the time you have spent in line.
The afternoon pick up is chaos and dangerous. Myself and my woman park backed into our spots and wait for our children and then file out like adults in line every once in a while you get the parent that would rather make a child crossing a speed bump than let someone into line....Its the same ones all the time so you just avoid them.. the chaos is on the street where a 3 lane road becomes a parking lot with children weaving in and out of cars to dash to the illegally stopped parent while others are U turning or driving in front of cars that have the right of way.... At what point did parents decide that the rules dont apply Its like a scene from Mr Mom "YOUR DOING IT WRONG"
and how many auto dial calls do we have to recieve telling us the proper way to pick up????This isn't rocket science
I drop my youngest 2 off early to avoid the line that makes its way down the hill as it gets closer to school starting. It tends to run smooth every other car goes in one coming up the hill one coming down pretty simple the hiccup is the parent or Grandparent who puts the car in PARK!!! That is a no no Johnny doesn't need you to get out give hugs and kisses, while we all what for you to move forward and clear out. Park in a spot if this is what YOU need to let them go to school Its March The child is fine.
Our middle school has MAJOR problems, 1st off there is the front to drop off or upper campus with an empty parking lot.. the mornings are smooth except for the mothers in the tanks that think they don't need to sit in the line and cut...Now would you cut in line at the grocery store or Disneyland probably not , but for some reason this person and their cargo are more important than you or the time you have spent in line.
The afternoon pick up is chaos and dangerous. Myself and my woman park backed into our spots and wait for our children and then file out like adults in line every once in a while you get the parent that would rather make a child crossing a speed bump than let someone into line....Its the same ones all the time so you just avoid them.. the chaos is on the street where a 3 lane road becomes a parking lot with children weaving in and out of cars to dash to the illegally stopped parent while others are U turning or driving in front of cars that have the right of way.... At what point did parents decide that the rules dont apply Its like a scene from Mr Mom "YOUR DOING IT WRONG"
and how many auto dial calls do we have to recieve telling us the proper way to pick up????This isn't rocket science
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Iris Apfel
Finding a balance
As Mothers I think it is very easy to get lost in your children... I think for stay at home moms this happens alot. I will always say and stand by that being a stay at home mom is THE HARDEST JOB on the planet. As a mom who has done both, it is for me. When I am home I am all in for my kids I work in the class, never miss a thing. I always knew all the kids in their class's. this gave me comfort and knowledge, when they told me what was going on in school I knew who they where speaking of.
As my kids have gotten older I felt the freedom to go back to work part time. My oldest is in middle school so there are no moms in the daily classroom, my middle child is in 5th grade so little volunteering needed. My daughter and youngest is a 2nd grader and due to a learning disability she is in a small group 1 on 1 learning part of the day.
This leaves you a little lost when your day for so long has revolved around kids and their needs. I am VP of PTA so that helps me feel involved or crazy...(i think)
I have been blessed to not only find a job thats part time but in the cosmetics field and they schedule around me. Otherwise dont think I could have both
Mom guilt is a killer... do we ever get past it????
As my kids have gotten older I felt the freedom to go back to work part time. My oldest is in middle school so there are no moms in the daily classroom, my middle child is in 5th grade so little volunteering needed. My daughter and youngest is a 2nd grader and due to a learning disability she is in a small group 1 on 1 learning part of the day.
This leaves you a little lost when your day for so long has revolved around kids and their needs. I am VP of PTA so that helps me feel involved or
I have been blessed to not only find a job thats part time but in the cosmetics field and they schedule around me. Otherwise dont think I could have both
Mom guilt is a killer... do we ever get past it????
The Women in my life
My Mother:
My Mother is the most loving person... growing up my mom was a teacher so we always had the same time off we never spent time home alone or with a sitter. My mom was always a part of whatever activity we did.. All the games, dance recitals she was there. My mom always played tennis and as she has aged and retired she now plays tennis, clogs, plays spades and is the busiest retired person I know.
My Grandmother on my moms side Polly as she is known, was a seamstress: she taught me to sew and be creative. She had a garage that had been converted to her sewing room. This was the greastest place when I was a kid FULL of fabric and buttons and all the neat parts of sewing, she did quilting I have once attempted a quilt for my own mother it came out OK. 2 of my prized possessions are a quilt she made me and my wedding dress. My wedding dress was one of the last major projects she did before she stopped sewing. It was beautiful and perfect. She also made my mothers wedding dress. Hopefully I can Help my daughter with hers. I have made most of my children's Halloween costumes and it is because of her that I have those skills. I have a picture in my home of her hands and it reminds me of the hours of watching her sew and create beautiful things.
When i was a kid we would meet my grandparents in the mountains and camp in there RV We played sooo many games, skip bo and dominos, to this day I love playing cards and games with my own children.
My fathers mother gave me my love of fashion and taught me how to shop!!! Some of my best pieces of jewlery came from her. She had an amazing completly full closet. shoes and bags and jewlery
My fathers mother was a tiny women she was 100% polish and always in the kitchen..that i did not inherit HA HA, She sported a house coat all week after many years raising 5 children ,it was now her time. On Fridays she got all dolled up went to the beauty shop got her hair done and then it was time to shop we would hit all the sales and then the commisary. She once bought me some heart shaped earings that sparkled I still have them wore them to my junior prom.. Every time I saw something I liked she told me wait a few weeks it will be the real price. She was right to this day I NEVER pay full price I wait for the mark down!!
I took dance for 14 years and my Dance teacher was named Ms. Cheryl... She was a tiny little firecracker this woman gave me the confidence to be me and that was ok to be different. I will never forget going with her and her daughters to see a performance and she wore the most amazing long yellow Betsey Johnson dress. I was in love.. to this day I carry a Betsey bag and buy her stuff I love it!! Ms Cheryl was a major part of me surviving high school, relationships, and self doubt. I learned in that studio much more than dance I became a women and learned I was beautiful and worth everything I could dream of. There was never any judgement just and ear and a hug.
She also gave me music.(.my dad always played music in our house.). but Ms Cheryl gave me Jethro Tull and the Beatles among others, every time I hear Jethro Tull I am tempted to start jazz walking across the room
My Mother is the most loving person... growing up my mom was a teacher so we always had the same time off we never spent time home alone or with a sitter. My mom was always a part of whatever activity we did.. All the games, dance recitals she was there. My mom always played tennis and as she has aged and retired she now plays tennis, clogs, plays spades and is the busiest retired person I know.
My Grandmother on my moms side Polly as she is known, was a seamstress: she taught me to sew and be creative. She had a garage that had been converted to her sewing room. This was the greastest place when I was a kid FULL of fabric and buttons and all the neat parts of sewing, she did quilting I have once attempted a quilt for my own mother it came out OK. 2 of my prized possessions are a quilt she made me and my wedding dress. My wedding dress was one of the last major projects she did before she stopped sewing. It was beautiful and perfect. She also made my mothers wedding dress. Hopefully I can Help my daughter with hers. I have made most of my children's Halloween costumes and it is because of her that I have those skills. I have a picture in my home of her hands and it reminds me of the hours of watching her sew and create beautiful things.
When i was a kid we would meet my grandparents in the mountains and camp in there RV We played sooo many games, skip bo and dominos, to this day I love playing cards and games with my own children.
My fathers mother gave me my love of fashion and taught me how to shop!!! Some of my best pieces of jewlery came from her. She had an amazing completly full closet. shoes and bags and jewlery
My fathers mother was a tiny women she was 100% polish and always in the kitchen..that i did not inherit HA HA, She sported a house coat all week after many years raising 5 children ,it was now her time. On Fridays she got all dolled up went to the beauty shop got her hair done and then it was time to shop we would hit all the sales and then the commisary. She once bought me some heart shaped earings that sparkled I still have them wore them to my junior prom.. Every time I saw something I liked she told me wait a few weeks it will be the real price. She was right to this day I NEVER pay full price I wait for the mark down!!
I took dance for 14 years and my Dance teacher was named Ms. Cheryl... She was a tiny little firecracker this woman gave me the confidence to be me and that was ok to be different. I will never forget going with her and her daughters to see a performance and she wore the most amazing long yellow Betsey Johnson dress. I was in love.. to this day I carry a Betsey bag and buy her stuff I love it!! Ms Cheryl was a major part of me surviving high school, relationships, and self doubt. I learned in that studio much more than dance I became a women and learned I was beautiful and worth everything I could dream of. There was never any judgement just and ear and a hug.
She also gave me music.(.my dad always played music in our house.). but Ms Cheryl gave me Jethro Tull and the Beatles among others, every time I hear Jethro Tull I am tempted to start jazz walking across the room
Me
So I have done a blog of family and kids: I always end up feeling as if the same things are posted other places and staying on top of multiple sites get old........After a conversation with a girlfriend I realized I am the one missing,sometime literally I will have pictures and I am taking them so i am not represented. I have thoughts opinions and feelings and this is now my outlet
I am Kendall a 32 year old fashion loving mother of 3.. I have a cosmetology license, I have gone to college and been a stay at home Mom . I am currently in charge of the cosmetics department for a major retailer , I am also VP of my kids PTA. I have alot on my plate as my husband works in another state(we wont even get into that) Its a good thing for us not sad or bad
Welcome!!!
I am Kendall a 32 year old fashion loving mother of 3.. I have a cosmetology license, I have gone to college and been a stay at home Mom . I am currently in charge of the cosmetics department for a major retailer , I am also VP of my kids PTA. I have alot on my plate as my husband works in another state(we wont even get into that) Its a good thing for us not sad or bad
Welcome!!!
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