As some of you may or may not know we did it we ( I, finally got my Big Girl I not Scareddddd Panties on) and moved to LA(Burbank) but LA. After many years of resisting and knowing it was a better job market we needed to make a change.
We do not have "family " in California except my Cousin and his wife who where about 4 hours away(now 2 1/2) and so for me I have My People who help in those times of need. I have a good group of women that are there for each other anytime we need something. I rely on these women the way you are able to call Grandma or family when you are late or sick or in need of help . We have never been attached to the physical house we live in since we sold our home. No matter where we live address wise we make our home the 5 of us and our personal items are what make us feel at home.
About a year ago a friend who i feel is doing an amazing job with her kids asked me "dont you want to have roots??" This stuck with me and I have thought about that alot for the last year(obviously) ROOTS??? my family watches house hunters internationally alot and we all sit here and think its so cool that people move from the US to some really neat places. I grew up living in only 2 homes the second house i moved into in 2nd grade and my parents still live there, yet I jumped at the 1st chance I got to move out of state at 18. Josh grew up moving a bit more but for the most part after 4th grade stayed in the same area. I guess I never thought of "roots" dont get me wrong I was in no way hurt or offended its just something i never thought about in that way. I always thought of giving my kids "Wings" , to fly away if they wanted, the confidence to be themselves Wings to find what and who make the happy, I do not think of an address as a home. In a country of 50% divorce rate a family that is not divided was the stability I focused on most. I put my marriage 1st, when Josh walks in the door and tells everyone hi and ask about there day we take 30 minutes just us 2 uninterrupted (this took some training). We do not use babysitters, so this is the time we carve out and do not wait until kids are in bed and we are to tired to talk. This works Great for US!!
back to subject:
This was the 1 st time we made a move that included new schools etc since Thalia has been in school, she has a learning disability and receives help 40 % of her school day by being in a smaller classroom setting working on math and reading . (she is a math genius, I am not ....therefore im so proud!!!)
with that the kids where consulted , we sat them down told them what we had been thinking about then spent a weekend here so they could see the area, schools, my work (I transferred). My kids spend ALOT of time in LA we are not an organized sports family. So we spend lots of weekends here at museums ,the park, any festival we can find, any excuse we drove the 65 miles north ALOT. Daniel is interested in making movies, he already makes them himself and with friends, Avery should be on Glee, he is so born to be in show choir but was to embarrassed at his old school . Thalia is just Thalia she is happy most of the time is agreeable and loves LA. If you ever see her clothing choices she soooo needs to work in fashion.
We all agreed it was time for a change, this would be financially better, closer to what we enjoy and provide my quickly growing young men the opportunities to more closely pursue what they enjoy.
I Love my SC family and have lifelong REAL friends that I will continue to see and spend time with.
As for ROOTS being 1 of the Williams 5 who 14 years in still enjoy each other, and like to spend time together is the " roots" , the life we live and adventures we have will give them the "wings" to be amazing adults.
Thursday, March 21, 2013
Saturday, November 17, 2012
Well we have a had a long emotionally draining month, However I learned a few things.....
Life is short, I know this and for the most part we really try to have special moments as a family and tell each other alot that we love each other and to appreciate what we have.
Josh's Nana really started downhill in August she was given 2-4 months and made it 10 weeks, we lost our awesome cat we had for 6 years and a week after returning home Josh's Mom had a head on collision . What I am learning from this tiring month is......
I am allowed to let a ball drop.. This is something I have to allow myself to get over
As you may or may not know I work part time, but I am also president of the PTA on top of my normal mom chores. I have a hard time saying no and I also have a hard time asking for help, the flip side is that I am pretty laid back and try not to stress , I try to be involved in my children and their future. With that said I am human and I don't have to try so hard, I can let the house or dishes go, I am allowed to forget things. Its OK for me to stay in my PJ's sometimes. I am only as good as the care I take for myself allows me to be . My kids are not going to remember the time mom didn't do the dishes or that mom forgot she had a meeting that one day. They are going to remember that in the short time we all lived in one house we spent quality time together, they will remember that trip we took or place we went. They wont know mom forgot she had a meeting that one day
I am thankful and happy everyday for the many blessings we have, we say I love you every time one of us leaves , we don't go to bed mad and we try to do things together on a regular basis. This is what I hope they remember
Life is short, I know this and for the most part we really try to have special moments as a family and tell each other alot that we love each other and to appreciate what we have.
Josh's Nana really started downhill in August she was given 2-4 months and made it 10 weeks, we lost our awesome cat we had for 6 years and a week after returning home Josh's Mom had a head on collision . What I am learning from this tiring month is......
I am allowed to let a ball drop.. This is something I have to allow myself to get over
As you may or may not know I work part time, but I am also president of the PTA on top of my normal mom chores. I have a hard time saying no and I also have a hard time asking for help, the flip side is that I am pretty laid back and try not to stress , I try to be involved in my children and their future. With that said I am human and I don't have to try so hard, I can let the house or dishes go, I am allowed to forget things. Its OK for me to stay in my PJ's sometimes. I am only as good as the care I take for myself allows me to be . My kids are not going to remember the time mom didn't do the dishes or that mom forgot she had a meeting that one day. They are going to remember that in the short time we all lived in one house we spent quality time together, they will remember that trip we took or place we went. They wont know mom forgot she had a meeting that one day
I am thankful and happy everyday for the many blessings we have, we say I love you every time one of us leaves , we don't go to bed mad and we try to do things together on a regular basis. This is what I hope they remember
Monday, April 30, 2012
The lessons of time apart
As you may or may not know Josh Has been out of state for almost 12 weeks for work.. We have had a one week visit in that time... What I have gained from this is not what I expected
The kids...this is not the hardest part of being alone, 3 kids that I have been a stay at home mom to most of their lives is the same routine regardless of who else is home. Get up, go to school, come home ,eat dinner its groundhog day for the most part.....being the only disciplinarian just stinks
The house...not to bad, kids can clean and do dishes..no one else to cook downside
ME... I have a really good time with my husband we laugh A LOT, we talk A LOT we went 2 years without cable, him being gone the dish was back within 2 weeks. I am bored and lonely. We have never spent more than a few weeks apart in our 14 years, so this was a challenge
What I have learned, that dropping him off and watching him go through security and into the terminal is hard it makes my cry and is a sad day, however waiting for him to come down that escalator into pick up is exciting and makes my heart race in anticipation. No matter if we disagree or argue, at the end of the day he is still the person I want to read the paper and drink coffee with on a Sunday morning.
I have also come to APPRECIATE even more the AMAZING support system that I have here in California. I may not have blood family right here but I have a family of wonderful friends who truly care for us and have helped with anything I have needed. These women are TRUE friends they listen when I need someone to talk to , they help with pick up or drop off or anything else I might need. I am so Thankful for you all and Especially my wifey, who knew I would come to California to find a best friend from BOSTON!!!!
The kids...this is not the hardest part of being alone, 3 kids that I have been a stay at home mom to most of their lives is the same routine regardless of who else is home. Get up, go to school, come home ,eat dinner its groundhog day for the most part.....being the only disciplinarian just stinks
The house...not to bad, kids can clean and do dishes..no one else to cook downside
ME... I have a really good time with my husband we laugh A LOT, we talk A LOT we went 2 years without cable, him being gone the dish was back within 2 weeks. I am bored and lonely. We have never spent more than a few weeks apart in our 14 years, so this was a challenge
What I have learned, that dropping him off and watching him go through security and into the terminal is hard it makes my cry and is a sad day, however waiting for him to come down that escalator into pick up is exciting and makes my heart race in anticipation. No matter if we disagree or argue, at the end of the day he is still the person I want to read the paper and drink coffee with on a Sunday morning.
I have also come to APPRECIATE even more the AMAZING support system that I have here in California. I may not have blood family right here but I have a family of wonderful friends who truly care for us and have helped with anything I have needed. These women are TRUE friends they listen when I need someone to talk to , they help with pick up or drop off or anything else I might need. I am so Thankful for you all and Especially my wifey, who knew I would come to California to find a best friend from BOSTON!!!!
Thursday, April 12, 2012
the great swimsuit debate 2012
Saturday, March 31, 2012
A promise to my children
I have 3 very different and individual children which is how life is supposed to be. All 3 will continue to be amazing people as they grow. I do not promise much in life, but I do promise you this. To love you as you unconditionally. I will support who you are and the choices you make. I may not agree or think its best for you but, I will love and support you. I promise to treat you all equally you are all 3 the most important accomplishment I have ever made. I am more proud of you than you can even imagine. All I ask of you in return is to follow YOUR dreams. Not my dreams for you, but the dreams you have and what makes you happy!!! Find your happiness whatever that may be, find what makes you feel like the best version of you. No matter where that takes you , who you encounter or what it entails FIND YOU HAPPINESS!!!!!! I love you all I cant imagine life with out and all that you have brought me. As you move on and leave your Dad and I , I promise to be your biggest cheerleader I am always here for you thick and thin, right or wrong. I promise to never make you feel anything than loved.
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Grieving
Grieving is probably one of the most personal processes in life. We all have our own way men, women and even our own family members have their own way. So whats proper as an outsider do you give a hug send a flower or just say I am here???
Thursday, March 8, 2012
The drop off pick up chaos
I don't know if every school has this issue or just our little town
I drop my youngest 2 off early to avoid the line that makes its way down the hill as it gets closer to school starting. It tends to run smooth every other car goes in one coming up the hill one coming down pretty simple the hiccup is the parent or Grandparent who puts the car in PARK!!! That is a no no Johnny doesn't need you to get out give hugs and kisses, while we all what for you to move forward and clear out. Park in a spot if this is what YOU need to let them go to school Its March The child is fine.
Our middle school has MAJOR problems, 1st off there is the front to drop off or upper campus with an empty parking lot.. the mornings are smooth except for the mothers in the tanks that think they don't need to sit in the line and cut...Now would you cut in line at the grocery store or Disneyland probably not , but for some reason this person and their cargo are more important than you or the time you have spent in line.
The afternoon pick up is chaos and dangerous. Myself and my woman park backed into our spots and wait for our children and then file out like adults in line every once in a while you get the parent that would rather make a child crossing a speed bump than let someone into line....Its the same ones all the time so you just avoid them.. the chaos is on the street where a 3 lane road becomes a parking lot with children weaving in and out of cars to dash to the illegally stopped parent while others are U turning or driving in front of cars that have the right of way.... At what point did parents decide that the rules dont apply Its like a scene from Mr Mom "YOUR DOING IT WRONG"
and how many auto dial calls do we have to recieve telling us the proper way to pick up????This isn't rocket science
I drop my youngest 2 off early to avoid the line that makes its way down the hill as it gets closer to school starting. It tends to run smooth every other car goes in one coming up the hill one coming down pretty simple the hiccup is the parent or Grandparent who puts the car in PARK!!! That is a no no Johnny doesn't need you to get out give hugs and kisses, while we all what for you to move forward and clear out. Park in a spot if this is what YOU need to let them go to school Its March The child is fine.
Our middle school has MAJOR problems, 1st off there is the front to drop off or upper campus with an empty parking lot.. the mornings are smooth except for the mothers in the tanks that think they don't need to sit in the line and cut...Now would you cut in line at the grocery store or Disneyland probably not , but for some reason this person and their cargo are more important than you or the time you have spent in line.
The afternoon pick up is chaos and dangerous. Myself and my woman park backed into our spots and wait for our children and then file out like adults in line every once in a while you get the parent that would rather make a child crossing a speed bump than let someone into line....Its the same ones all the time so you just avoid them.. the chaos is on the street where a 3 lane road becomes a parking lot with children weaving in and out of cars to dash to the illegally stopped parent while others are U turning or driving in front of cars that have the right of way.... At what point did parents decide that the rules dont apply Its like a scene from Mr Mom "YOUR DOING IT WRONG"
and how many auto dial calls do we have to recieve telling us the proper way to pick up????This isn't rocket science
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